Buckle up, this gets a little spooky.
As I’ve written about before, I recently moved back to my hometown after a 20+ year absence, and to sum up my experience so far: I see ghosts everywhere.
Not literally, of course. Maybe it’s more accurate to say that the reality in front of my eyes is a palimpsest (thank you to the lady-novel A Discovery of Witches for introducing me to that word). I feel like I can’t see the thing in front of me without also seeing the ghost of the thing it used to be. I pass stores that used to be houses and houses that used to be vacant lots. Hazel’s school was my school – her classroom was my third-grade classroom. I see our desks in neat rows, overlaid by her class’ tables for four.
I walk through Publix as a 42-year-old, buying school lunch supplies and produce, and I pass the ghost of my teenaged self, ordering her first Publix sub at the brand-new store.
This happens most frequently at church, where I spent so much of my childhood and where generations of my family have worshipped. I process down the aisle with the choir and pass through the ghosts of my mother and grandmother walking that aisle as brides. I run my hands over the pew where my father always sat, and I wonder if any of his DNA could be lifted from the grain of the wood. On Christmas Eve, the smoke from my candle rose to the ceiling, where it became another layer in the finish of the building, another layer in the story of the church. It mingled, perhaps, with the smoke from candles held on Christmas Eves long ago, by men and women I never met but whose stories and objects reside in my home.
I am 42 and leading the Call to Worship. I am 37 and delivering my mother’s eulogy. I am 18 and preaching on Youth Sunday. I am 14 and reciting my confirmation vows.
I am assuming that my long absence has heightened this impression of overlapping realities, and that as I become re-acclimated the jarring sense of seeing through the present into the past will fade. For now, I find it comforting. It makes me feel firmly rooted and deeply connected to my community, after several years of feeling adrift. I am not revisiting my past; I am inhabiting it.
There are downsides, of course. It is unhealthy to dwell exclusively in the past, and I’m trying to be intentional about using my history as a tool to propel me forward and not a crutch to keep me back. One woman, on meeting me for the first time, gleefully exclaimed, “We’ve got our Winkie back!” It made me wince. But this, too, shall pass. The layers of personal history I am applying will obscure the ones laid down by my parents and grandparents, and the restless ghosts will go back to sleep.